You can learn a lot about sex…in a freezer

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It comes in a variety of flavors...but it's still ice cream.

(This post is a brief sample of a chapter from a book I am writing.  I hope you like the concept!)

I am amazed at the variety of places and objects that illustrate truth about sex.  Tonight I went to Braum’s to pick up some ice cream for my wife, Holly.  (That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!)  There must have been 30 different flavors in the row of freezers I looked through.  My eyes were drawn to the Brownie Batter because that is the one I knew Holly would want.  Then I noticed the Peanut Butter Cup, and the Snickers, and the Peppermint, etc.  Let’s just say I walked out of the store with more than the Brownie Batter!

As I hovered over the row of freezers, envisioning a spoonful of chocolate Cake Batter finding its way into my mouth and wondering how upset Holly would be if I blew the whole bill in my pocket on ice cream (I bet old Ben liked ice cream too), I realized you can learn a lot about sex in a freezer!

Chocolate, Cookie Dough, Strawberry Shortcake, Mint Chocolate Chip, Peanut Butter Pretzel, even Vanilla, they are all variations of the same thing, ice cream.  No matter what the type, it is still ice cream.

It’s the same way with sex.  Fantasy sex, solo sex, cyber sex, text sex, oral sex, “true sex,” call it what you want, it’s all still sex.  The brain and the body respond the same way regardless of the type.

We live in a culture that tells our children, “It’s not really sex.”  Perhaps every parent should take their children on an outing to an ice cream shop.  After all, you can learn a lot about sex in a freezer.

Share Truth About Sex at Early Age

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Start conversation about sexuality early with your children.

I had breakfast today at Poor Richard’s Cafe with Dan Martin, Executive Director of the Dallas office of the National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families.  I imagine our conversation was a bit different than the other conversations taking place.  Between bites of pancakes and bacon, surrounded by the drivers of the 42 pick-up trucks in the parking lot, we made introductions and talked about the topic we both work to promote, God’s vision for sexuality.

As I learned more about the NCPCF, I was appreciative of the fact that they encourage parents to begin dialogue about sexuality while children are very young, age 3 or so. I share that perspective.  If parents would begin conversations with their children at an early age and continue the conversations, the need for intervention during teen years would likely be much less.

A few months ago I was introduced to a new book by Jim Burns that provides a great tool to begin teaching children about sexuality.  God Made Your Body is designed for children ages 3-5 and filled with appropriate, vivid pictures that bring the book to life.

In his “Special Note to Parents” at the front of the book, Jim shares the following:  “At this age, it’s important to introduce children to the foundational theme that God created their body and it is special.  You begin laying out for them a healthy view of their body and the very basics of sexuality.  As you read this book to them, you will be establishing the trust that they can come to you when they are older to talk about these issues.”

Great encouragement!  Give the gift that will last a lifetime.  Start conversation about sexuality early with your children.