Share Truth About Sex at Early Age

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Start conversation about sexuality early with your children.

I had breakfast today at Poor Richard’s Cafe with Dan Martin, Executive Director of the Dallas office of the National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families.  I imagine our conversation was a bit different than the other conversations taking place.  Between bites of pancakes and bacon, surrounded by the drivers of the 42 pick-up trucks in the parking lot, we made introductions and talked about the topic we both work to promote, God’s vision for sexuality.

As I learned more about the NCPCF, I was appreciative of the fact that they encourage parents to begin dialogue about sexuality while children are very young, age 3 or so. I share that perspective.  If parents would begin conversations with their children at an early age and continue the conversations, the need for intervention during teen years would likely be much less.

A few months ago I was introduced to a new book by Jim Burns that provides a great tool to begin teaching children about sexuality.  God Made Your Body is designed for children ages 3-5 and filled with appropriate, vivid pictures that bring the book to life.

In his “Special Note to Parents” at the front of the book, Jim shares the following:  “At this age, it’s important to introduce children to the foundational theme that God created their body and it is special.  You begin laying out for them a healthy view of their body and the very basics of sexuality.  As you read this book to them, you will be establishing the trust that they can come to you when they are older to talk about these issues.”

Great encouragement!  Give the gift that will last a lifetime.  Start conversation about sexuality early with your children.

Introduction

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Steve and Baby Ruth

Hello.  My name is Steve Holladay.  I am the father of 4 children, am married to my wife of 18 years, and live near Dallas, TX.  My house is also home to 2 rottweilers, Baby Ruth and Little Texas.  I enjoy a good steak and am very fond of chocolate in almost any form. 

In many ways I’m not much different than most people.   I enjoy spending time with friends.  I try to do more than time will permit.  I juggle responsibilities of marriage, fatherhood, work, and ministry, and sometimes find myself off-balance in the process.  I experience financial challenges, struggle with doing the right thing, want to be liked, and sometimes wonder what if…

In other ways I’m somewhat unique.  I was on the loosing end of a battle with sexual addiction from childhood until age 33.  I am 7 years into my recovery and am greatful to God for leading me in the healing process.  I am frequently invited into the lives of others seeking help for issues related to sexuality.  I walk with people as they visit very difficult pieces of their life.  These experiences provide me with an uncommon perspective on the subject of sexuality.

God’s gift of sexuality, intended to be a source of pleasure, mystery, intimacy, and security, has been distorted in this fallen world and robbed of its true value.  For many, sex is viewed as dirty, shameful, secretive, hurtful, and empty.  I’ve lived both.  I value the former and regret the latter.

I hope you will find the insights I share in this blog of value.  I envision that some posts will be educational, some inspirational, and some down right humorous.  Sometimes I’ll share information, other times I’ll share myself.  I invite you to share as well.